“Eight-year-old children have a radically different learning strategy from twelve-year-olds and adults. Eight-year-olds learn primarily from positive feedback (‘Well done!’), whereas negative feedback (‘Got it wrong this time’) scarcely causes any alarm bells to ring.”

Learning From Mistakes Only Works After Age 12, Study Suggests.

I just knew I should be using positive reinforcement more! Argh!

What’s funny (or sad), is that plenty of people don’t learn from mistakes after age 12 either!!

My mentor recommended giving more jobs and encouraging more independence among the students as a way of gaining greater control. So, I implemented a Homework Monitor who has to check and see if everyone at their table (they sit in groups of 4 and 5) have done their homework. Then, I come and check who did it all and they get a check on a chart on their desk. It worked remarkably smoothly this morning.

One new detail to the Table Monitor job did not work so well. I told them it was now also their job to keep everyone working either in silence or using their library voices. This did not seem to help much. Maybe tomorrow.

I was feeling really frustrated the other day because two veteran teachers who were in my room ended up yelling at my kids to stop talking. That’s really the only way, or the main way, they “misbehave”. I was so embarrassed because I felt their actions reflect on me. I started to agonize over whether the rules, routines, and procedures I had established weren’t having the effect they’re supposed to and what I was/am doing wrong.

But the bigger struggle I have been having, is while I want a classroom that is full of kids passionate about learning and who follow the rules because they know it helps them to learn, I don’t want to be a drill sergeant. It’s not my style. Some may see it as a strength and some may see it as not belonging in the classroom, but I have a lot of respect for kids – their desire to ask questions, play, laugh, discover and try out. I don’t want a classroom that is silent. I have English Language Learners (ELLs) and I want them to talk – to sort out their problems orally and learn how to discuss their problems.

So I realize what I need is to focus more on allowing them to respect me and each other easily, and to learn HOW we talk in a classroom. And I need to find more ways to be better prepared so that lessons are more engaging and they reach kids from different angles and, on the one hand, lessens the language obstacles, and on the other, teaches them the language they need.

My thinking was sparked in part by finding loveandlogic.com, and while I don’t know enough to say I agree with their approach totally, I do like their list of classroom expectations:

(I combined two different lists from their site to make it like this)

1. I teach when there are no distractions or other problems.

2. I listen to students who raise their hand.

3. I listen to one person at a time.

4. Please treat me with the same respect I treat you.

5. If someone causes a problem, I will ask them to fix it.

• If they can’t or will not fix it, I will do something.

6. What I do will depends on what happened and what the person is willing to do to solve the problem.

This really speaks to the side of me that respects kids and wants to see them grow as responsible members of a community, and sees that they already have that potential. I like how it is written with emphasis on the teacher and uses positive language. NO ONE in my school, from what I can tell, uses this approach.